When old habits die hard Toronto’s Best Life Coach, Giovanni Maccarrone, says a good way to keep your new year’s resolution is with a positive attitude and by setting realistic goals.
“You should never set a goal because someone else tells you to or because you think it’s what you should do,” he says.
Maccarrone, who’s helped hundreds of clients achieve their personal goals and keep their resolutions, says a successful goal is 80% psychology (the attitude you have towards your goal) and 20% mechanics (understanding the actual steps needed to realize the goal).
“Anyone can set a goal and understand the steps needed to achieve it, but it’s when you actually want to see a change in your life that you’ll keep your goal and it will eventually become a positive habit,” he says.
To help you stay on track with your new year’s resolutions, the Toronto Life Coach shares these tips:
Change your language:
Maccarrone says using positive words to describe your new year’s resolution can help you stick with it.
“People often say ‘I want to lose weight’ well human beings don’t generally like to lose anything, so how can someone expect to successfully achieve a goal when they use these negative associations?”
The life coach emphasizes the importance of using positively charged words and phrases instead. “Saying ‘I”m going to get into the best shape of my life’ is a much better incentive.”
According to Giovanni, many people give up on their resolutions early on because they were never genuinely inspired to make the change in the first place.
“Don’t let inauthentic emotions push you… if you want to change something in your life it’s because you genuinely want to… don’t follow the crowds or do something because you heard someone like Dr. Oz say you should.”
Set goals that motivate you, explains Maccarrone. “If you have little interest in the outcome of your goal then you won’t follow the steps to success.”
Seek out an expert:
For those of us who make the same new year’s resolutions with no results, Giovanni recommends reaching out to an expert, like a life coach, for some personal coaching.
“As a life coach I make dreams come true,” he says, “My role is to give my clients the tips and tools to help them achieve their goals and improve personal growth.”
Maccarrone, who’s worked with actors, athletes, and entrepreneurs, says a successful life coach can empower clients to make positive changes and can instill transferable skills to help them in all areas of their life.
Change the attitude:
According to Maccarrone, when you eliminate the negative emotions associated with a particular goal, the goal becomes less daunting.
“Let’s say your new year’s resolution is to work out more, you know its good for you but you still dissuade yourself from doing it because you feel tired after work… you need to get rid of that negative emotion and replace it with something positive.”
Instead, Maccarrone says those looking to ‘work out more’ as part of that resolution should view exercising as an activity that gives you more energy and makes you feel better.
“Overall, focus on how good the action feels and always have the positive result in mind. Focus on the results, not just the process.”
Understand the mechanics:
When you’ve finally committed to setting a goal you need to know the right steps to achieve positive results explains Maccarrone.
“If your goal is to get fit you have to understand what to do to acheive your fitness goal. You have to do research to understand what foods to eat, how to exercise and how to let your muscles recover.”
According to the life coach, putting in the research and sticking to a successful plan keeps you organized and on track of your journey.
Just do it:
When you really want to make a change in your life Maccarrone says there will be a feeling of pleasure or happiness associated with achieving this goal and that’s when you know it’s time to act.
Don’t be discouraged:
According to some experts, most resolutions fail by mid-February but Maccarrone says those who’ve set goals and haven’t seen their desired results yet shouldn’t give up.
“When people are not getting the results they want or have taken a step back and feel discouraged, they basically have two choices they can play the victim by making a big deal out of the setback, or they can realize that this side step is incredibly small and a little step in the right direction is all you need to get your results.”
Maccarrone also encourages goal-setters to be patient and to re-assess the steps they’re taking to achieve and keep their resolutions.
“…sometimes you just need to be consistent and give it a bit more time and sometimes you have to do a bit more research or ask a few more people to tweak your strategies,” he says.
According to the Toronto Life Coach, if a strategy is not working it’s time to change it in order to actualize your goal. “Doing the same wrong thing over and over again does not make you a hero.”
You don’t have to wait till January 1st:
Many of us chose January first as the start day to get fit, quit smoking or work towards that promotion but Giovanni says resolutions can be set anytime.
“You can set goals every day! Your goals can be as simple as ‘I’m having a great workout today’ or ‘I’m going to meet someone new at the party,'” he says.
Giovanni also emphasizes the importance of striving for happiness as a resolution. He says “happiness is important because success without fulfillment is failure.”
Making changes and keeping those new year’s resolutions can be difficult but Giovanni reminds us that if at first you don’t succeed try and try again – and refer back to some of the tips listed above for some added help.
To learn more about Toronto’s best Life Coach Giovanni Maccarrone, and how he continues to transform lives, check out his YouTube video.